"Love Is Not Enough: Why Your Relationship Needs Effort Too"
When we think of love, we often imagine grand gestures, butterflies in the stomach, and a magical connection that seems to conquer all. But here’s the truth: love, on its own, isn’t enough to sustain a thriving relationship. Yes, love is the foundation, but just like a house, a foundation alone won’t keep you warm in the winter or protect you from the storms. A strong relationship takes effort, intentionality, and a whole lot of grace.
As Christians, we know that God designed marriage as a reflection of His love for us—a covenant, not just a feeling.
Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
That’s no casual love; it’s sacrificial, patient, and committed. It’s not about coasting on emotions but choosing to love every single day, even when it’s hard.
Think of your relationship like a garden. You can’t just plant seeds (fall in love) and expect a lush, blooming paradise to appear. Gardens need watering, pruning, and protection from weeds. In the same way, your relationship needs care. Date nights, heartfelt conversations, forgiveness, and prayer together are like the water and sunlight that help your love grow.
But let’s not forget the weeds—those pesky distractions, bad habits, or unresolved conflicts that can creep in if you’re not careful. Ignoring these won’t make them go away. Instead, you need to roll up your sleeves and deal with them together. This might mean having tough conversations, seeking counseling, or simply learning to say, “I’m sorry” (and meaning it).
Effort doesn’t have to feel like a chore, though. It can be joyful! Surprise your spouse with a kind note, laugh together over silly jokes, or take time to pray for one another. Little acts of love, done consistently, build a fortress around your relationship.
Remember, love is a gift from God, but effort is how we steward that gift.
Proverbs 14:23 reminds us, “All hard work brings a profit.”
When you pour effort into your relationship, the rewards are sweeter than you can imagine—a deeper connection, a stronger bond, and a love that reflects God’s glory.
So, roll up your sleeves, have fun, and put in the work. After all, the best things in life, especially love—are worth the effort!